Here’s the thing about social anxiety… it’s frustrating!

We feel like people are always judging us.

We over-think everything.

Sometimes, we get so uncomfortable, we find the closest exit and do everything we can to escape the entire situation.

But even making a run for it doesn’t help. We end up feeling ashamed for not being more confident. We feel isolated and convince ourselves that something is wrong with us.

Social anxiety makes us feel like there’s a huge wall in our mind, keeping us from being normal.

Like I said, it’s frustrating… but you and I can change that.

Imagine for a moment being excited about going to a social event.

Imagine having the confidence to share your thoughts and not worry that people would judge you for what you had to say.

Imagine having the courage to walk up to a group of people and join the conversation without feeling totally awkward.

You can absolutely have this life and I want to help you get started today.


Hi!  I’m Aaron J. KelleyAaron J Kelley

I’m the author of the Discarded Anxiety blog and a fellow Social Anxiety-Fighter.

I know what it’s like to feel socially awkward and struggle to find words to speak in the simplest of conversations.  

I’ve had my hands get sweaty, my heart beating out of my chest, and my mind go completely blank while people were waiting for me to speak.  I’ve even chosen to shy away from challenges instead of being confident in spite of fear.

Needless to say, social anxiety and I are pretty well acquainted.  

But I also know what it’s like to want to get over social anxiety.  

I understand that feeling of being fed up with yourself and how you respond to those anxiety inducing situations.  

I’ve been there and I’m here to tell you…

You don’t have to stay there.

A few years ago, I decided I didn’t want to let anxiety control me anymore.  So I set out to discard my social anxiety by implementing the strategies that I talk about here on the blog. 

I learned how to make progress by taking small steps each day.  I also learned to accept my fears while embracing confidence and courage.  I realized that if I wanted to make lasting changes in my life, it wouldn’t always be easy, but it would always be worth it.

On my journey, I’ve found that there were a lot of people just like me.  Living a decent life, but still limited by anxiety and fear.  

That’s why I started Discarded Anxiety.  Not only to help people overcome social anxiety and fear, but to help people live their best life. 


What’s Your Best Life?

What’s your answer to that question?

Perhaps you’re thinking about being rich and able to afford any and everything you want, and that would be really cool.

But, is that really your best life?

How about the ability to communicate your thoughts and feelings so clearly that you know the person you’re talking to understands you.  What about being able to nail the job interview or speak up at the meeting at work without fear keeping your from giving your best effort?

What does your best life really look like?

For me, it’s not about the money (although money is great).  It’s not about being famous and having all the things I want to have.


My best life is about having the confidence and courage to go after the things that I want without allowing my anxiety and fear to hold me back.

My best life is about applying for the job because I want it and not limiting myself because I may not have all the skills.  It’s about taking the chance to learn new things, be vulnerable, and grow as a person.

My best life is about taking action to reach my goals instead of daydreaming about what it could be like.

That may not sound like much to some of you and if that’s the case, perhaps this isn’t the blog for you.  But I’m certain that some of you resonate with this.  You know deep down that to go after you big ideas and carry out your dreams, you just need a little confidence and the sky’s the limit.

If this resonates with you, you’re in the right place and I hope you’ll stick around.


What You’ll Find Here

Through the blog, you’ll learn how social anxiety really works and what small but significant changes you can make in your life to start overcoming your anxiety.  Every blog post will have action steps for you to take designed to help you practice the skills needed to overcome social anxiety.

In addition to blog post action steps, you can also take part in challenges to help add the best strategies into your daily life.

Plus, you won’t be alone.  As a reader of Discarded Anxiety, you’ll become a part of our thriving community of readers who are taking this journey alongside you.  Feel free to share your thought, feelings, and questions in the comments of any blog post.  I respond to every comment and love interacting with you.

Here are 3 of my most shared articles:

When it Feels Impossible to Go On

How to Stop Feeling Judged by Others

The Only Strategies You Need to Reach All Your Goals This Year


We’re in This Together

Our community has decided that social anxiety and fear will no longer keep us immobilized. We believe that our best life is possible and we don’t want to waste any more time letting our negative thoughts and feelings control us.

The goal of this blog is to help you cultivate courage, build your confidence, and live your best life.

Let’s take this journey together.

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