3 Easy Ways to Encourage Yourself

There’s an old popular story that many of us know and loved as children, The Little Engine that Could.  This children’s story is most famous for the simple mantra “I think I can… I think I can.” This saying likely taught you how to encourage yourself. Encouragement is the action of making yourself or someone else “more determined, confident, or hopeful.”  (Merriam-Webster) A bit of encouragement from others can push you to accomplish things you didn’t think you could. Great coaches often use encouragement to push their teams beyond what…

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When it Feels Impossible to Go On

“I don’t think I can do anymore, I can’t go any further. This is impossible!” Those were the words of my high school basketball teammate Roger after we had just finished running lines. If you’ve never played basketball, running lines is a conditioning drill where all the players on the team line up at one end of the basketball court and waits for the coach to blow his whistle.  Once the whistle is blown, the players are to run as hard and fast…

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Putting Optimism to the Test

In the our last post, we discussed how optimism is one of the best tools you can use to combat anxiety. Just the simple act of thinking positively can create an amazing snowball effect.  Even the tiniest positive thought increases confidence.  As confidence increases, anxiety decreases. But, I know that just telling you that optimism works, may not be enough to encourage you to try it. So, I wanted to share a quick story with you. Meet Rita Today, Rita Zoey Chin is known as…

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The Adversary of Anxiety: Optimism

Fighting anxiety is hard. If you've spent any time trapped in the throes of a panic attack or worry session, you know how much power anxiety can wield over you. But just like every super-villain faces a stronger superhero, anxiety has its adversary too. Optimism. Optimism is "a feeling or belief that good things will happen." (Merriam-Webster). When dealing with anxiety, we often forget that good things are possible. Anxiety paralyzes you by flooding your mind with every possible negative outcome.  Sometimes, anxiety is so overwhelming that…

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2015 Annual Review: Reflections & Plans for the Future

When I started this blog, one thing that I knew I wanted to do at the end of each year (or in this case at the beginning of a new one) is to conduct an Annual Review and share it publicly. This is inspired by one of my favorite authors, Chris Guillebeau, who wrote The Art of Non-Conformity and has conducted an annual review for 8 years on his blog. I'm excited to share with you, my very first annual review, highlighting my successes as well as my…

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You Can Start Today!

When my sisters and I were in grade school, my dad had his own way of encouraging us to do well. He taught us the following exchange, which we had to say nearly every day. Every morning, he'd say to us, "Do your best!" We would always say that we would. Then he'd ask us, "Why are you going to do your best?" Our response was, "Because we're going to be somebody." Then he'd say, "Starting when?" To which we'd reply, "Today!" Today…

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You Can’t Rely on Motivation Alone

We all do it. We get inspired by a delightful story. We're moved by a picture or video that resonates in our hearts and we say to ourselves, we're going to make a change. We decide we're going to take more risks and stop letting our anxiety control us. We're motivated! Then, seconds later, we're reneging on that promise and falling right back into our normal routine. Why is motivation so hard to maintain? This is a question I often ask myself.  As…

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I Don’t Want to be Famous

While I've never been famous, it doesn't seem all it's cracked up to be. Sure, the money would be great, and the perks are likely wonderful, but fame seems to come at a much higher price tag than most people bargained for. With the internet, paparazzi, and crazy fans selling their stories to the media, it seems that celebrities spend just as much, if not more, time protecting their career from people trying to tear it down as they do building it. So…

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10 Ways for You to Cultivate Gratitude

Those of us who celebrate Thanksgiving, all have our own special traditions.  One of the most common traditions many of us share is taking turns around the table saying what we're thankful for.  It's so important to take some time to reflect and express gratitude for the life you live. This month on Discarded Anxiety, we've been discussing gratitude.  We talked about the benefits of gratitude, and even shared a story about expressing gratitude during a tragedy. Today's post is a short curated list of 10 ways for you to cultivate gratitude.  My…

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Gratitude in the Midst of Terror

At 8:41am on September 11th, 2001, I was waiting to get a breakfast sandwich from my high school cafeteria.  It was 10 minutes before my next class started and five minutes before the New York City skyline would change forever. A week earlier, the fall golf season at my school had started.  My teammates and I were heading into our third and final season together.  Our coach, "Coach V" had been with us since the beginning.  He taught in the elementary school but enjoyed spending time with us high school kids…

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An Invitation to Gratitude

Many ancient Egyptians believed in The Five Gifts of Hathor.  This is a ceremony where the high priest would have a new member of the community raise his left hand and speak a list of five things in life that person would miss if he died at that very moment. Whatever the person listed, the priest would say, those five things were gifts from the goddess Hathor.  That person then was to remain grateful for those five things for the rest of their life. The importance of raising the left hand was to…

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How to Build Courage

For the last few weeks, we've been discussing courage.  We started with my personal story of what it felt like to be courageous for a change in "I Have a Confession..." Then we shared the story of a young man who, despite choosing to stop speaking to avoid the scrutiny of a terrible stutter, found the courage to do something amazing with his voice in the post, "How Cultivating Courage Will Save Your Life." This week, I wanted to conclude the conversation and provide you…

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I Have a Confession…

"I'd... um... I'd like to be considered for... any opportunities... to do more for our agency. I'd love a new challenge." That was me speaking to my boss nearly 2 years ago. I remember it like it was yesterday. Heart racing, body trembling, palms sweaty, voice shaking... all while trying to say those few simple words. Once the words were out, I wanted to grab them back and hide them in the deepest darkest hole I could find. But there they were, out…

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